A Journey To Fulfillment With “Choking God”

Richard Carlston’s “Choking God” isn’t your typical religious self-help book. Instead, it is a raw exploration of breaking free from limitations, both self-imposed and societal, in search of a more authentic connection – not just with a higher power but also with yourself.

While the title might initially seem confrontational, particularly for those raised in a strict religious environment, the book ultimately offers a path towards a more meaningful and personal relationship with both God and your own true self.

The memoir opens by exposing the stifling nature of religious dogma. Carlston describes a childhood where obedience to God and a rigid set of rules dictated every aspect of life.  This “heavenly bargain” – sacrificing earthly desires for a future reward – left him feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.  However, this initial critique isn’t an attack on faith itself. It’s a call to question the rigidity of religious structures and explore the “grey area” of reality – a space where faith can coexist with doubt and forgiveness with a healthy dose of skepticism.

A pivotal moment in the book arrives through a seemingly mundane encounter. On a date, a simple question – “What do you think about life?” – throws Carlston off guard.  His initial flippancy reveals his discomfort with genuine introspection.  But then comes the jar of sweets, left on his porch with the inscription “Wherever you go in life, there you are.”  This simple message acts as a gentle reminder to embrace the present moment, a stark contrast to the constant striving for a future reward instilled by his upbringing.

The book delves deeper by exploring the concept of self-created Gods—limitations and beliefs.  Carlston uses the metaphor of “gods” to represent these internal barriers – societal expectations, ingrained beliefs, or even fear of the unknown.  These “gods,” teachers, and monsters that we have created can prevent us from pursuing our true desires and stifle our spiritual growth—sooner or later in life.  By questioning these self-imposed gods, we can dismantle them, paving the way for a more authentic connection with ourselves and, ultimately, with God.

Beyond choking self-made gods, “Choking God” challenges the notion of delayed happiness.  It encourages readers to stop waiting for some future paradise and start finding fulfillment in the here and now.  This doesn’t diminish the importance of faith, but it expands its role.  Our connection with God can be strengthened by experiencing the beauty and richness of the present moment, by embracing gratitude for the simple joys in life, and by living authentically according to our own values.

“Choking God” doesn’t shy away from the challenges of forging a deeper connection with both God and oneself.  It acknowledges the importance of vulnerability, honest reflection, genuine self-expression, and even challenging conversations —that can be catalysts for growth.  Similarly, the book emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, stating that letting go of anger and resentment, not only toward others but also toward ourselves, allows us to move forward with a lighter heart and a more open mind.

It’s important to remember that “Choking God” isn’t a prescriptive guide but more of a story that offers a roadmap for personal growth and spiritual fulfillment. By turning away and diverting from the gods and idols we have created, this book can show us the path to self-discovery and living authentically.

Ultimately, “Choking God” is about breaking free from anything that restricts your growth, both spiritually and personally. It’s about dismantling limitations, embracing the present moment, and fostering a genuine connection with your true self.

So, if you’re feeling suffocated by expectations, limitations, or the self-made gods and yearning for a more authentic connection with yourself and your faith, then “Choking God” might be the breath of fresh air you’ve been waiting for. It’s an invitation to embark on a journey of self-discovery, and who knows, you might just find yourself closer to God than you ever thought possible.

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